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 Sometimes in life, you can be hurt by the very people whom you love and care about. They can suddenly drop out on you and disappear completely, leaving you feeling empty and totally alone. The darkness can cover you, making you weep, how can people who you love most do things to you?  You have become a stranger to them, you are a distant, unwanted person in their lives. What can you do, to stop thinking about the pain and hurt you feel? Things remind you of the pain and hurt of those people who care for you but wholly.  It is these times to shed tears. You have two choices, either immerse in self-pity or move on. It is at these moments that you move on. Life is better with focusing on things you can control.  Moving on to things that can create a positive impact on your life. Life is worthy of you. 

  Giving a speech in Dhivehi felt surreal after long a time. I had the most engaging participants. Adding value to others is something I am passionate about. Thanks, Leesh for the opportunity Photo credit: Leesh #Learningtogether #womensupportingwomen #womenleaders #LifeGoals #AchievingGoals #AnythingEverythingisPossible

Mindfulness is creating awareness about everything surrounding you including the environment and the people that you interact with in your life.   1.       The first step to mindfulness is being aware of your surroundings. Create the feeling of being, feeling and tuning with everything around you. Keep a notebook or journal and write down your thoughts. 2.       Set aside time daily every day to reflect on your life. Capture the thoughts in your thoughts, it will give you clarity. 3.       Let go of judgements, and interact with the world by having a fresh mind. 4.       Observe the moment, be present. Try as much to stay focused and live the moment 5.       Be kind to your mind and yourself. Your mind may wander off, having prejudgements and unfocused. Be gentle to your mind and bring back to the present and moment.    

  Have you had those moments when you feel your voice has been drowned out by the voices of others? You try to muster all your courage and energy to speak up, yet it fails you? This is something many of us experience in our lives. For some, this is like a terminal disease that is hard to diagnose in order for us to find a cure.  I was like that for a long time. I lacked the confidence to say anything in front of others. As a child, even in the classroom, I thought I will sound stupid if I say something. I would sit on the back bench and no other children noticed me. I remember the bullying and being alone. It was as I started on my adult learning journey that I started to push myself. I used to read several self-development books and these books became my friends to change my perception of life. I can do it if I push myself.  Slowly, during my adult education en route to my Master's and Doctorate studies, I changed my attitude. You can say that I was slow in my journey bu...

  Since I started mentoring people at the beginning of my career in the development sector in 1998, I invested a big part of my time in the growth of others. I realised early on when I worked in the President's Office on the lowest rungs of the administrative ladder that something was amiss. I would spend duty just filing papers and then the only time I got relief was when I get the duty to deliver the letters up to the big bosses.  Then I was transferred to State Trading Organisation, in those days, being transferred to another organisation was not seen as something acceptable. You were looked down by society. This made my resolve stronger to empower people if ever I became the boss.  In 1998, I co-founded Care Society and I became the boss. I had an Executive Board to give the direction of the Non-governmental organisation (NGO) but I had free rein to run. I had grown Care Society from running on my own funds to pay for the electricity and free space in an attic in my h...

  How do we know someone has a fixed mindset?  A person who has a fixed mindset is unwilling to learn. This is a person who knows it all. A person who is not willing to change and thinks it is okay to be in the same situation and circumstances, without being challenged.  How can we teach someone to have a growth mindset? On the other hand, a person with a growth mindset will be excited to learn new things, this person is willing to go to extreme lengths to explore and be challenged in life. A person who loves feedback accepts changes and adapts easily to learning or situations.  Over the years, I have met numerous people who have the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset. How do I deal with them? Most of the time, I have been successful to help people grow but other times, I have to let go. Wanting to learn and change comes from people, themselves. I need others to be willing to learn and grow, in order for me to help them or support them.  So how can we chang...

Some time back I was requested to mentor the senior members and the Exco of an organisation. I helped them in the past and the organisation did well. The second time when the request came I had to think twice. The first time, it was easier to mentor and turn around the organisation to be successful.   This is a group of entrepreneurs who already have created a path for their future, and no outside influence or mentorship can change. The company has set ways and created a culture they didn’t want to change.   I have no regrets today, as I am happy to see the entrepreneurs flying high & I wish them all the best in the future. I can see their growth far & beyond. My only advice will keep growing with the continuous changes and adapt.   Fathimath Afiya Brigden

  Leaders are mindful when they take care of what they say or write to others. are mindful of -         What is said to the public? -         What is said to Teams? -         What is said about others? -         What is written in texts/blogs/presentations?   What goes around comes round.   Meaning if someone mistreats others or are badmouthing others, that person will end up being given the same treatment.   This is especially important in a working environment or network places.   Focus on the vision, collaborations, or networking, it will reap benefits. #networking #environment #leaders #network  

  Have you heard of this from your seniors or experts saying learn from experiences?   I tell you; this is something which may not sit well with our younger generation. All of you are loaded with experiences. We have millions of books communicating experiences. We had WW1 and WW2; how much are we learning from these lessons?   The continuous wars declared by powerful nations and politicians are making the citizens of Ukraine, Afghanistan, Iran, and many other countries, how much have these wars taught us?   My stand on this is, open doors for the youth to experiment and learn. Let them fly around the world. If they are above 18 or less and if you trust them well enough, let the youth enjoy the freedom and independence? If you want them to trust and tell you things, do the same.   How can we teach our youth? Give them the same treatment you expect from others. Give them the learning opportunities. Engage their youthful minds, apply critical thinki...

  I have observed even the greatest speakers when they don't speak for a while, need to re-learn and work on their skills. In my experience, attending a one-time workshop or event will not improve public speaking skills. After conducting public speaking workshops, I always encourage participants to join a forum where they can practice their skills continuously and consistently. Toastmasters is the platform where you can speak, practice and learn from the feedback. Consistency in public speaking skills or communication skills will improve the learning.

1. Don’t do everything 2. Distribute leadership & don’t micromanage 3. Delegates work & let the workers do the job without meddling 4. Gets well on with everyone, ask teams for feedback 5. Discusses and make collective decisions 6. Have a vision and foresight to optimise resources 7. Listen to the collective voice to form a judgement 8. Trust workers  

  Humans are made to appreciate kindness.  Saying a simple thank you can make a person's day. Since we moved to Malaysia 3 years ago, we use Grab taxis a lot to travel around. We always make a point to say thank you after reaching our destination.  You can see the smiles spread across the drivers' faces, probably they are not used to being appreciated.  Most customers may see the work Drivers do, driving to their destinations as part of a paid package, so customers may think, Drivers, don't need to be appreciated.  Believe me, Drivers deserve to be appreciated. You will see the magic of their smiles if you say thank you to them. 

1.      Routine  in your life works  2.       Getting up in the morning early will give you extra time to enjoy your life, you will be amazed at the amount of work you can accomplish 3.      Once you have got up early for a month it becomes a routine Coach John Khalid   

 In our daily lives, we are bombarded with negative thoughts and niggly feelings of incompetency and doubts about our self-confidence. These are the killer thoughts that can kill our contentment and rip our positive thoughts to nothingness.  What can we do about it?  Stop, pause & refuel. Smile Appreciate yourself Pat on your shoulder for doing great What tiny things made you feel positive during the last one hour Cast the negative thoughts aside like dust Smile again! Coach Fathimath Afiya

    People always ask me this question about productivity.    How do I manage my time? People see my active life and wonder how I can plan my life around doing so many things.   Here are a few tips to manage your time.    Remove Distractors My husband is a lover of watching Television (TV), he was addictive that he would watch television all day. How did we remove this distraction? We have a television that came with renting our condo in Malaysia.  After our return from the Maldives, attending the National Human Resource Convention by MAHRP on 21st and 22nd May, we decided to pull off the cables and push the TV behind the TV rack, we covered cloth to protect it. Reading news Every morning when we get up, we would end up catching up on the world news. Of course, it is good to keep up with the world and current affairs. However, we have a duty to our souls and body. We cannot be consumed by the wars, hatred and murders that are happening across...

  People ask us all the time, what makes us to be together. What is so special about our relationship.   We have our moments like any other couple. One thing that keeps us going is the ability to talk to each, forgive and appreciate each other.   Most importantly, we have a lot in common, we exercise together, learn together, and plan our life to grow together in every respect.   Alhamdillah, it has been a wonderful journey that we love each other and yet give space to each to grow rich in our hearts, mind and personally.   

July has been a remarkable month for both John-Khalid and me. We have achieved our expectations. Only 7 July 2020, we were installed as part of the Exco members of MIM Toastmasters Club of Johor Bahru, a non-profit International organisation. 'Toastmasters International is a non-profit educational organization that teaches public speaking and leadership skills through a worldwide network of clubs. Headquartered in Englewood, Colo., the organization's membership exceeds 358,000 in more than 16,800 clubs in 143 countries. Since 1924, Toastmasters International has helped people from diverse backgrounds become more confident speakers, communicators, and leaders'.  https://www.toastmasters.org/about/all-about-toastmasters John-Khalid was installed as the President and I was installed as the Vice President of Education, both important roles to shape the future of the club. We hope to help members to achieve their goals. I believe in personal bonding to achieve anything in life. ...

Working together as husband and wife can have advantages, but you need to give a breathing space to the two partners, which is our experience.  We pride ourselves in being a strong couple that supports each other, despite our strong personalities, that sometimes can have different opinions. In times, we clash with our ideas, we sit down and discuss until we reach a common agreement. The good thing about us as a husband and wife team working is that we put our clients and work foremost before our individual needs. We both are in agreement on the majority of ideas if one partner has suggestions, we discuss. Both of us are open-minded about giving space and room for the other to grow and develop.  Every day, we spent a few minutes to plan for the day or the next day. We have one big whiteboard and a small whiteboard that we make our plans and write down our goals. This helps us to keep track of our goals and achievements. We have learnt to plan together and live harmoniously....

It is a question we always get asked, how did we meet. I am from Maldivian and my husband is from the UK. We met 10 years ago online and after six months of chatting, I flew to the UK. On the same day, we got married Islamically. It was after 2 years that we got married by British law and after 2 years that we were able to register our marriage in the Maldives. This is because at first, we lived in the UK for a few years, then later moved to the Maldives and currently we're living in Malaysia. I am pursuing my Doctorate in Business Administration at the Asia Metropolitan University (AMU) in Malaysia. We have been here in Malaysia for 2 years and we love everything about Malaysia and have made lifelong friends.       Myself in the Maldives in 2018 John-Khalid in the Maldives in 2018 Like any couple, we have our differences but we have learnt to forgive and give space to each other. We have made terrible mistakes in our lives, our future is to be better and help others...